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Of Pilots, Racism, and Feet in Mouth.

One of the difficulties with Autism is communication. It is defined as a Communication disorder. Some would argue it is a Communication Dis-alignment. We communicate fairly well with out own, but when we have to enter the world of Neurotypicals (Regular Brained people), it can sometimes be difficult. Even those of us who have trained ourselves to follow the social norms, we slip up. We misread the situation, or we don’t express ourselves clearly enough.

This morning, I slipped up.

I was on LinkedIn. Linked is is supposed to be a business Social Media. Where you can meet people and companies in the same field as you. You can use it to find work, and read blogs about your field of specialty.

It is not.

This morning, I was on LinkedIn, and I saw a post. The post I believe was supposed to be empowering. It stated “If I get on a plane and see a Black pilot, I’ll breathe a sigh of relief knowing the person in charge is capable of overcoming many obsticles to achieve their goals.”

Beautiful. I agree. Overcoming obstacles is a good thing to be able to do at 30,000 feet.

So I commented. and I screwed up. My logic at the time was clear in my mind. If the person is doing a great job (At whatever they are doing), then why does skin color, or ethnicity matter?
I also do not remember seeing the Pilots when gettin gon flights in the last decade…

I felt I was clear. Let them do their job, whether they be Black, Yellow, Red, or White.

I did apologize for misreading the situation. But I’m still not really convinced I did…

I had forgotten that this was a whole thing. And later someone posted about Affirmative Action.

Now, I have been out of the Continent for a long time, but here is what I have gathered was the intention of Affirmative Action: Look at credentials, and experience when hiring people. Don’t look at race, gender, or other things not connected to the job.

In China here it is a whole strange thing. We have men doing jobs here that I would not expect, and feel a bit uncomfortable with here. For example, I have met so many men who sell women’s underwear. Not just happen to be at the store, but who’s job is to Hawk them. Stand in the street call people out, look at them and find the right size, and style for them.

And Why shouldn’t they be able to do this, or any other job? My old western upbringing tells me warning bells should be ringing, but nobody else bats an eye. So I have to think about what is actually preventing this? Not his knowledge of fabrics, sales techniques, and style.

But the Pilot post drew me back to a few days ago.
The title is misleading. But the body of the text explains that an Ethnically Non-Chinese Pilot, flying in Chinese Domestic Airline, was forced to Emergency land at an airport that was not the destination (Beijing).

The Policy in Emergency Landings states they must make the announcements in English first, then in Chinese. I believe this is so that it is recorded in English on the black box, but I don’t know. He did this, but the complaints quickly turned to his piloting ability.

The insinuation to me was that Chinese Pilots can land in any weather, bad or good, so why give us the unqualified foreign pilot?

The Airline, did back the pilot up, and defended the decision, which was not his to make in the first place.

So my point that I was trying to make, and apparently failed to on Linked in is this: Good people come from all walks of life. All races. All Genders. All Heritages. All Sexualities.

To find a good worker, you look at their resume, not their skin color.

If you wish to read the full article on the Pilot in China, it is here

ShenZhen

It has now been one month since we moved to ShenZhen from Beijing.

For me, it has been a relaxing month. Yes, we are still unpacking and organizing the house. I expect this will take a long time, as we never fully unpacked over the 4 years we were in ShunYi district of Beijing. Yes, our bedrooms are smaller. Our living room is bigger, and we have a beautiful view.

ShenZhen is what’s considered a New city. it started growing out of a village in the 80s. So in a way, I am older than this city. There is a ton of nature here. Lots of parks, lots of trees, and grass. Even the overpasses here have flower gardens built into them. the flowers and bushes hang down from the overpasses.

The city is smaller than Beijing, which is great, as we can get around better here. We have not explored much of the city yet. We have learned about the different regions by friends, adverts and videos in the display panels of the elevator in the building we live in. My wife and I have had to run around the city a bit. So we do have a bit of an idea. We look forward to exploring more, but in our own time.

One of the things I like about the city is, and this may just be me, but Life here doesn’t feel rushed. Yes it is a city, and is aiming to become a global city, but the general feel of life is much more relaxed. While there was some places in Beijing that you could relax at, the overall feeling of the city was claustrophobic to me. Most parts of the city were densely packed, and the looming buildings could be overwhelming. Most people were nice, but the sheer number of people pressing against you could be overwhelming. In the streets here, I have breathing space.

As an Autistic living here in ShenZhen, so far, my mind is at ease. My family and I can be quite particular with food, there are restaurants with cuisine from around the world, helping us with that. My Smell sensitivity used to force me to use only the “Premier” cars in the ride-hailing app (DiDi), here even regular Taxis are scent free, and easy to breathe in. The ocean is nearby, If I want to walk there and just listen to the waves. We have this beautiful view of the city framed by mountains from our house. I sometimes just go out to the balcony and stare. So far, I have not felt overwhelmed by the population density, or crowds. The malls we have gone to so far have not been too loud, or too scented.

Life is good in ShenZhen.

19 Years – Update

So, after the events that lead to last week’s post, thing have changed.

On our end, we kept trying to find ways to get My wife’s paperwork sped up from the Philippine side. However, due to the typhoons (plural) that hit the country recently, certain government offices were flooded, and closed. (or the area nearby was inaccessible, I’m not sure). So getting a rushed paper copy of the paperwork was quoted as 4~6 weeks to arrive.

We looked into an E-Apostille. And ordered one. 2 problems came up from that. Apparently China doesn’t accept E-Apostilles, which sucks. The other problem is the method in which an E-Apostille is made. One Government office prints up our paperwork, authenticates it and then MAILS the papers to the Apostille. The Apostille Office then has to scan it, and create the digital apostle form. The Apostille Office doesn’t trust digital copies sent from the government? And then this falls into the whole Manila is flooded problem.

The HR representative from my company had been working on ways to extend my wife’s visa. They were handling this from the China side. She was more successful. We discovered that there is a specialty Immigration office on the far side of the city. This office deals with non standard applications, or problem solving. My wife had an interview with them yesterday. They agreed to extend her current visa 30 days.

So now we have 30 days to finish getting the paperwork.

This morning, My son received our marriage certificate from the government. But it was not Apostilled. And the next available appointment to get an Apostille was end of August. We called the government (again) this morning. They helped us order an Apostilled Marriage Certificate without an appointment. It should be available this week.

So at this point, we seem to be on the way to finally getting my wife a spousal visa. She will finally be legally recognized as family in China, after 19 years.