Author: chadwickbaldwin

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A Canadian teacher in China

Frustrations and Empathy.

I am in a rare situation, where I am both a teacher and a parent, and get to see the frustrations from both sides of the current world wide education shut down.

我处在一种罕见的情况下,我既是老师又是父母,并且看到当前全球教育的两方面的挫败感都被关闭了。

I understand parents are frustrated that their kids are not learning at school and that parents are now tasked with both caring for their kids during the day and assisting them with schoolwork.

我了解父母对于孩子们不在学校学习感到沮丧,现在父母要承担的任务是白天照顾孩子并协助他们完成学业。

I understand that as parents we don’t always know how to help the kids with these situations. We don’t have time to do our work and take care of our kids. We can’t afford to miss work, or afford the extra food, electricity, and computers that the kids need to stay home and learn.

我了解作为父母,我们并不总是知道如何在这些情况下帮助孩子。 我们没有时间做我们的工作和照顾我们的孩子。 我们不能错过工作,也不能负担孩子们留在家中学习所需的额外食物,电力和计算机。

I understand that a lot of parents need to vent and teachers are the easy target. But please empathise.

我知道很多父母需要发泄,而老师是容易的目标。 但是请同情。

Teachers are working through a situation that most of us are not trained for. We are taking care of your children on a machine that makes it really easy to be distracted or avoid class altogether.

老师正在经历我们大多数人未受过训练的情况。 我们会在一台机器上照顾您的孩子,这真的很容易分散他们的注意力或完全避免上课。

At the same time we are tutoring our own children to learn and stay healthy. We are trying to keeep a calm presence, so that the children can still feel calm and collected. When the adults in a child’s life panic, the children learn to panic. If we panic or act panicky easily they will panic easily too.

同时,我们正在辅导自己的孩子学习和保持健康。 我们正在努力保持镇定的状态,以使孩子们仍然可以感到镇定并得到镇定。 当成年人在孩子的生活中感到恐慌时,孩子们会学会恐慌。 如果我们容易惊慌或惊慌失措,他们也会很容易惊慌。

Same with anger if we lash out at people for small things, guess what the children will do?

如果我们在小事上向人们大肆抨击,猜想孩子们会做什么,这与愤怒同样。

If you are angry with the situation, great. Help the situation get better. Discuss your feelings with the kids, do the right thing by wearing a mask and staying 2 meters from people as much as possible, so that this whole thing clears up and we can all be back in a classroom in September.

如果您对这种情况感到生气,那就太好了。 帮助情况变得更好。 与孩子讨论您的感受,戴上口罩并尽可能与人保持2米的距离,做对的事情,使整个事情变得清晰起来,我们都可以在9月回到教室。

If you are worrried about your child falling behind. Don’t be. Who are they falling behind? The other children who had to learn the same way? Teachers will help the children catch up and they will be back on track within 1 month of returning to school. Our first priority is and should always be the safety of the children.

如果您担心孩子落后。 不用了 他们落后谁了? 其他必须以相同方式学习的孩子? 老师将帮助孩子们追赶,他们将在重返学校后的1个月内回到正轨。 我们的首要任务是并且应该永远是儿童的安全。

If you are complaining about the cost and demanding teachers get a pay cut, please empathise.

如果您在抱怨成本,并要求教师减薪,请同感。

Imagine you have to do all your work over video conferencing now. It takes you twice as long to prepare, and twice as long to do your paperwork. Which means even less time with your family EVEN THOUGH you are at home with them. How would you feel if the client demanded that they pay less just because you are not in the office where it is easier and more convenient to do business?

想象一下,您现在必须通过视频会议来完成所有工作。 准备工作的时间是您的两倍,而文书工作的时间则是您的两倍。 这意味着与家人在一起的时间更少,即使您在家与他们在一起。 如果客户只是因为您不在办公室里做生意更容易,更方便而要求他们少付钱,您会感觉如何?

Empathy is an important skill to have in both society and in business. It is also learned passively. It can’t be taught academically. Children learn it by observing the adults in their life. When parents don’t show it, teachers have a harder time teaching it. Thinking about how others feel in a situation doesn’t take much, and everyone can do it.

同情是在社会和商业中都必须具备的一项重要技能。 它也是被动学习的。 它不能在学术上教授。 孩子们通过观察成年人的生活来学习它。 如果父母不展示它,老师将很难教它。 思考别人在某种情况下的感觉并不需要太多,每个人都可以做到。

Help tech your kids positive problem solving skills at home, and empathy. Appreciate that you won’t always be given the chance to be with them like this. They appreciate it, so should you.

帮助您的孩子在家中培养积极的问题解决能力和同理心。 意识到您不会总是有机会像这样与他们在一起。 他们赞赏,您也应该赞赏。

Thank you.

Kids

Caring for your kid’s needs during the pandemic has been difficult for sure, and I don’t want to downplay that in any way. You suddenly have these little ones that are normally at school and get some personal space and now you don’t. You are more aware of what is happening in their lives and have to worry about their well-being more.

Despite all this, I don’t understand and am appalled to see all these memes and jokes about parents who hate their kids. The biggest influence on a child’s life is their parents. And it is never too late to start being a more positive role model for them. If you don’t like an aspect of the child first self analyze and decide if this is a trait that you model. If it is, start acting better. If it is not, discuss it with them . (Note discussion is two sided, if it is one sided it’s called lecture which gets ignored)

Now that I have that off my chest updates about our children. We have 3 kids: ages 2, 10 & 12. They don’t always get along. We try to let them have alone time if needed, even if it means taking turns in seclusion. (We are in a 2 bedroom apartment). The rest of us have to take care of the toddler.

I have become a lot more aware of how media presents women lately because I am always telling my daughter that she can be anything she wants. It’s amazing how your opinion of certain movies changes when you view it as “how will my girl see it”

Examples. We watched a few older movies over the last few months. We watched the Jurassic park-world series. What do you see right from the first movie? A lady doctor who examines dino poop. A war photographer that hunts for the perfect shot of a Dino. A mother willing to fight dinosaurs to find her kid, women who work hard and are smart.

My wife and I also chose “the mask”. I remember loving this movie when I was younger. But the ladies are all represented at eye candy for the men. Every single one of them. Except the landlady. I was ashamed of this. My daughter still laughed at the antics, but the whole movie left me with a sour taste.

I am trying to find better movies to watch with my family, but it isn’t always easy. And it’s not just the movies.

Over the course of my daughter’s education she has had a ton of local teachers that have been trying to push the idea that women are not equal to men and this has led to a few discussions.

Boys in my daughter’s class will do Soccer or track and field in Gym class. Girls can go watch or gossip.

A few years ago my friend had an English Soccer club run through the school. The school wouldn’t let girls join so my friend just let them play along for free. 2 years ago the club got cancelled because not enough paying members. He always had enough players, but they weren’t allowed to pay and so didn’t count. My daughter took his club with her brother.

I have been busy working and homeschooling my daughter. My son has been taking digital classes without problems. My daughter’s class chose to do class on an app that requires a Chinese name and Citizenship Number. So I have been helping her with everything.

Now school is returning on June 8 (for 1month) I informed her class that she will not be returning until September. She has missed every class for months so it makes no sense to send her in.

My son will be studying at home as well. The city may be opening up again, but I am not ready to risk my kids yet. I have to return, which means a lot of work for me to prepare lessons for the kids as I will not be home to explain things.

My family is the single most important thing to me. I wish I could do more for them. Keep safe everyone, and try to be the best version of yourself for your kid’s sake. They need you a lot more now.

Spring time sprung

We successfully moved into our new apartment 3 weeks ago, and have been busy ever since.

When we moved into this apartment we knew that there were things that need fixing right away, and that service men were not going to be available due to the virus situation. So my wife and I rolled up our sleeves and got to work. Luckily we both come from families that promoted Do It Yourself home repair.

First thing we had to do was replumb the bathroom sink. The sink was so clogged that nothing would go down. When we looked, the pipe was a thin plastic hose (commonly used here). The problem with these thin hoses is that drain cleaners create enough heat to melt a hole in them. We did not burn a hole in this one, but instead went to the local home repair shop and got a new hose, and decided to install a new drain with a built-in plug at the same time.

The next project was the kitchen. While that isn’t complete yet, it’s so much better. Our old apartment had literally a metal sink and 2 computer desks instead of counters, so really anything would be an upgrade.

This kitchen needed a good cleaning. Now, you should be aware that every apartment in China we have rented has had a ton of grease caked over the kitchen walls, and a lot of people just don’t have the energy to fight it. Well we don’t live like that. My wife and I spent 1 day just cleaning grease off of everything we could. Then, we went to work on the counter top.

The counters in the kitchen had big cracks in them. One was even broken through. Now neither of us have the skills to truly repair that. Instead we braced the broken section and bought some marble textured sticky linoleum and covered it up.

While Keeping busy doing this I have had to completely take over schooling my daughter as she is unable to use the apps that the rest of her class is using to study. Some of them require a better understanding of Chinese to use, and another reqires a Chinese name and Citizenship number.

On top of all this I still teach my school class in the mornings, play with my toddler in the afternoon and spend all night marking and planning. Needless to say I have been a little tired.

I hope everyone else has been keeping busy during this interesting time.