The Company I was working at here in Canada understandably needed a date that I was leaving, so I gave them my best guess. I told them I was leaving Canada on the 25th of August. So I finished work on the 21st. This week, I have been relaxing, trying to find things to keep my mind busy while waiting for My visa letter, We cannot go without that. I have been in contact with my School In China, addressing concerns about our re-emigration. Right Now all we can do is sit and wait, and this is the thing that drives my wife and I crazy.

Now to be fair, the lateness is not the school’s fault. When they sent us the requirements for a visa we had difficulty on our end. They were told that we needed a medical Check, but only from doctor that had been screened by the Chinese Embassy. That was were the problem arose. According to the Chinese Visa Center, Medical checks have not been needed since 2012. This information was not available online. I had to take a day off work to go to the Visa center to find this out as it is in downtown Vancouver. Then we had to have the school verify that it was still needed, so they had to talk to immigration there. After this we had to find a doctor to request the medical tests, which was no problem, but the tests could only half be done nearby, we had to travel to a different town to do the x-rays. (The local X-ray center won’t do any immigration requested tests.)So it took us longer than we had hoped to get the papers fed-exed to the school in China.

Work begins next week, and classes start the following Monday, September 7th. I am pretty sure we will be late for class. I’m not 100% sure of what classes I will be teaching, but I have asked so that I can spend some of this free time preparing classes. That is what the rest of the teachers will be doing next week., My being late should not be an excuse for being unprepared in my mind. I have Digital copies of the lower grades English and Science books from when I taught them last time I was working there. I would like to touch up my old lesson plans, but I want to focus on the classes I will actually teach.

We have worries about where we will stay for the first month or two, while we look for our own apartment. Coming late doesn’t give us any time to find a place of our own. Since The kids and I will be in class most of the day 5 days a week. That leaves only Irish to look most of the time to look. Unfortunately she cannot speak Chinese, and is really shy, almost cripplingly so. So we need to spend some time finding our place together.

I won’t lie, financial concerns for the first month are a big stress. But Once we have gotten past the first month, we should be fine financially. We have budgeted out enough for our expenses in China and enough to pay our debts in Canada. Irish and I have both learned a lot about family financial planning in the first 8 years of our marriage, and even though we both started off terrible with money, we are confident that we are going to be able to do all this. The hard part about finances is when you move to a new place where you don’t know the cost of things or the amount you will have coming in.

We will be fine, and when paperwork is finished we will be returning to Canada. Please be patient with us, and we will keep you all updated as we go.

I had been mentally planning this angry rant about forced sharing on posts from Facebook. How Facebook seemed to be full of bullies. “If you don’t share this you are heartless” or “Repost or you will be poor your whole life.” or even “Share or Repost and Baby Jesus will bless you.” ~type things really bothered me this morning. All the way to the bus stop I was internally fuming about these posts. I have taken to unfollowing people that posts these.

Unfollow? What’s that? That’s where I keep you as a friend on Facebook, because I want you to get my messages that are for “Friends & Family” but I don’t read your posts, because they tend to annoy me. I had noticed that I never had this problem on Google+. Never had to unfollow or unfriend anyone on there, but I don’t follow many people there. But generally it is a much more positive experience there for me.

At this point I started to think back when FB started, how it was so novel that they took the functionality of “Yahoo-photos” and joined it with “LiveJournal”. There were no games, no memes, people didn’t take selfies every 10 seconds of their life. Life was pleasant. No, it was better than pleasant, it was good.

Some of you might not remember the websites I mentioned, so I’ll elaborate. Yahoo Photos was one of a few places you could upload pictures to the internet for other people to view. You had a limit of 1GB I believe, which was more than ANYONE needed. And you’d just send people the link to the album. This was the future or photo-sharing it was awesome. Yahoo no longer has a photo-sharing that I am aware of.

LiveJournal was and still is a place you can micro-blog (or write a journal) whenever you like and friends could read the posts. For a long time they did not have file storage for pictures, I believe that is no longer the case.

Anyways after this point of thinking about LiveJournal, I re-located my old LiveJournal (http://aetolus.livejournal.com) and read a few posts. This made me calm down, and remember some happier moments. I am reminded that I like to use my social media more to post things about my life, not to push an agenda, or to force people into feeling one way or another about topics. So I ask a favour of you all. Go to your own social media website, and review what YOU have posted in the last 6 months, or year. What does that tell people about you?

You can use Google+, Twitter, Facebook, LiveJournal whatever, but look over your old posts from this year and ask yourself, is this what I want the world to remember me by? Is this really me? If you can’t say yes, then maybe you should change your posting habits, and if you are 100% happy with what you post, then I happy for you. I will still unfollow you if you try to push an agenda on me through the social media of choice.

The quote above, I have heard several times since moving back to Canada, 3 times in the last week alone. I sit and wonder, is there something in the water? Now don’t get me wrong, it is a nice city. My problem stems from the idea that a lot of these people can’t wrap their head around the idea that the world is so much bigger than Canada. So even if you feel that this is the best city in the country, you have no basis for it being the best city in the world. (I do not agree that Vancouver is the best city in Canada.)

The problem I see here, is the same problem I see when I travel almost anywhere. “My Country/ City /Province is so much better than the place I am now.” The problem with these people is that they have judged a place before they see it. And they can’t/won’t change their preconceived notions. And sometimes they are hard to change. I know that for me, before 2003, My idea of Los Angeles was the opening scene from Predator 2. Gang warfare on every street corner, the police fighting against the gangs, the citizens caught in the crossfire. What changed? I WENT to Los Angeles, and had a good friend show me around. It’s a pretty nice city. (I like it better than I do Vancouver…)

Another problem I see is lack of knowledge. The people I have talked to have all called the rest of Canada “Boring” with nothing to do. Funny That’s how I feel in Vancouver most days. Do some research, whatever you find “Fun” will be the same in every city across Canada, except maybe swimming in the ocean, which you can find on the Atlantic Coast just as easily as the Pacific coast. If you go to Montreal and want to go clubbing, find out about the club scene before you go.

And the last complaint I have no solution for. Vancouverites can’t stand the cold, and the rest of Canada is too darn cold. I actually love snow, and cold weather and was very disappointed to find both lacking here. I wanted to make snowmen with the kids, and take them tobogganing and have snowball fights. The simple joys of life for a typical

On the other hand I have seen a lot more negativity in Vancouver than I remember being in Canada since I returned, More people who are Health-paranoid, and yet Uber-caffeinated. I have seen more racism and sexism than I am comfortable with. The Racism is very sly and subtle but it oozes across Vancouver, the sexism is not so subtle. I have met a ton of pierced & tattooed people who swear their kids are not allowed to do either.

I sit and wonder, why this city is so different from the rest of Canada. I have always been proud of our Cold Winters, our multi-lingual & multi-cultural Heritage, our ability to welcome people from the world with open arms, and our ability to help each other when in need. Very little of each of these have I seen since moving to the Vancouver area. I wonder if when we return to Canada if this is the place we will settle, I hope we settle in a place a bit more Canadian, eh?